I want to live my best life. I know you do too!
The definition of a best life, of course, is different for every single person. It’s not always about fame or fortune. It’s not always a business or a great career. Your definition will be as unique and dramatically different as you are. It doesn’t have to match your friends, spouse or partner. There is nothing wrong with having a different picture of what a best life is!
REMEMBER: What matters most is not your dreams or even your circumstances but the knowledge and understanding you can change your life’s path at any time by making a few small changes.
Tiny changes when you combined together over a long period of time can create some amazing results without investing a huge amount of time so they won’t hamper your daily life.
You can start right now, TODAY, with these 10 things to change your life and your happiness.
Figure out these two things: Who is it you want to be and how to create the steps you need to get there.
- Are you dreaming to be a business owner, a CEO of your own business, going after a partnership in a top law firm, or be recognized as the volunteer of the year at your kids’ school? Whatever path you decide to take will require a different set of skills and knowledge base, so it will be up to you to figure out what your plan is and the steps you’ll need to take to get you there.
Practice habit stacking – or multitasking.
- You promised yourself you’d read more this year but just can’t seem to get into the habit, what can you do? Start by taking small bites. Put aside 10 minutes each morning (the time it takes your coffee to brew in the morning) to read. Grab your book instead of reaching for your phone to check the latest Facebook update. It will be easier than you think to make this commitment and turn it into a habit. Need another example? Try flossing right after brushing your teeth. You’re already in the bathroom so it makes sense to make flossing the next logical habit to start.
Adapt the 2 minute rule.
- Carving out 20 minutes to do something .. is like .. overwhelming. The brain kicks in saying “where will I find THAT kind of time.” Here’s a great solution to try. Instead of committing to meditating for 20 minutes every day, commit to only 2 minutes. Or try adding an extra 2 minutes to the end of your cardio workout then increase it each week by 2 more. Relieve your stress by doing some deep breathing exercises for 2 minutes. You’ll find it much easier to create new habits but introducing them slowly.
Set clear boundaries.
- Boundaries, as far as I am concerned, are mandatory. They help to keep us sane in both our personal and professional lives. Do you want to be available to your clients 24/7 or do you believe business should be handled only during business hours? Do you want those negative vampires feeding off of your energy or family members hanging around who suck the fun out of your family events? As scary as it is, invite only who you want to family events, and not those you feel obligated to invite. Take care of YOUR mental health.
Be the person you want to be.
- Use the right adjectives when you describe the person you want to be.
- For example: If you are trying to quit eating junk food, describe yourself as “someone who doesn’t eat junk food” rather than “someone who’s constantly tempted by snacks.” Want to quit smoking? Describe yourself as a ‘non-smoker’ versus “I’m trying to quit smoking”
- It’s the same if you are running a business. It doesn’t matter how you look at it, you are the ‘CEO.’ By describing yourself with a positive, ‘it’s happening right now’ tone impacts your mindset in an amazing way!
Find the right community.
- When you surround yourself with like-minded people, it helps you keep that positive mindset; however, it does take some work to find that right community. You can’t just speak in general terms like “I don’t eat junk food” or “I’m a wellness coach.” It’s the time to dig deep, just as you would If you were on the hunt for your ideal client. Using a term like “coach” alone is way too broad; an “Business Coach” is better but you’ll really find your community if you identify as an “Business Coach for Busy Moms” (or substitute Busy Moms for whoever your target market is).
When you slip, brush yourself off and get back in it.
- It’s not the end of the world if you make a mistake. It’s about adjusting and realigning your goals. If you overeat at dinner, you know you need to not indulge in that bowl of popcorn where you watch a movie and should plan on a healthy breakfast. Oops, missed your workout? There is always tomorrow. *Word of caution you’ve worked hard to create new habits so don’t let one slip make all your hard work to waste. It’s much easier to ‘get back in the saddle’ right way then it is way down the road!
Set yourself a manageable goal with a concrete drop-dead date and don’t change it.
- It’s this simple .. Keeping track of your goals gives you a consistent reminder of all your progress! The key is to make sure your goal is manageable and not overwhelming!
- You’re bound and determined to improve your writing skills so you can start a blog. You set a goal of writing 500 words per day for the next 30 days, knowing you can extend it for another 30 days. Totally doable! But if you set too large of a goal, say 10,000 words per day, the first day in, you become overwhelmed by the amount and want to give up.
- Never set goals that overwhelm, yes, they should stretch you but not make you want to quit!
Goals: Concrete versus abstractions.
- General goals are not enough. Any goal you set needs to be concrete and I mentioned doable. So instead of saying “going to the gym” set a goal of doing 5-10 pushups a day. The track them. Over time, you’ll find it becomes second nature .. a great new habit to have and once it’s in place, you can add another tiny habit to the mix.
If you start too big, don’t give up; make your tiny habit even smaller.
- What happens if you find out you bite off more than you can chew? Don’t quit, instead adjust and realign! We can and often set our tiny new habits too big, to put it bluntly, we live in an oversized world.
- You set yourself a goal to run 15 minutes each day, but you find that’s really a stretch for you. instead of giving up, adjust the time to what WILL work for you, start with 5 or 10 minutes time frame and then add a few minutes each week until you get to your desired goal.
- When you break down your habits into bite size pieces, it makes them much more manageable. Can’t get the motivation to even do a 5 minute run? Make your first tiny habit putting on your running shoes. Then your second habit filling your water bottle. These tiny steps will become automatic so you don’t think about them, you just do them. In the end, when you add these tiny steps together, you’ll find yourself meeting your goal of running for 15 minutes. *It a great way to reprogram your mind!
Tiny habits are the stepping stones that you use to build your best life. If something isn’t working right, or you’re not living your best life, it’s time to make some changes. Start to explore how to change your tiny habits so you can receive the outcome you deeply desire and deserve.
Need Some Help Making The Tiny Changes In Your Life?
Are you finding it hard to implement the tiny changes in your life? Is it holding you back from building the life you envision? CONTACT ME TODAY to schedule a no-pressure, no-commitment phone call to see if I can answer any questions you might have. Together, we can work on those BSFs (aka, big scary feelings) getting in the way of your freedom to do the things you love!
You can follow my journey, or start mapping out one of your own in my FB group, Map It Life & Business.The community is filled with some amazing connections and many first-class resources! Click here to join! Share your thoughts in the group or feel free to share them in the comments below.